Everything you take into your mind programs you. In the past, I thought of the matrix as a construct created by others to imprison and control us. In actuality our minds are the matrix and they are being programmed at all times. The key is selecting our own programming. Right now most people ingest what is readily made available. Education, religion, television, politics and social programming of all sorts in mainstream society are the default programming and work for those who wish to control us. Through their programming they control what we think about, how we process the information and the action we are likely to take.
The states and federal government create the requirements and practices for school. The way teachers are trained, schools are ran and children are taught is all for control of the masses. The history that is taught is not an accurate representation of the past and was created to control our perception. They removed critical thinking and replaced it with testing and regurgitation. Teachers are being pressured to teach to the standardized tests. Almost every child nationwide is indoctrinated with this education. This is the foundation they build their lives on and shapes their minds. Most will never question this foundation.
All the major religions require its followers to accept certain truths without question. Once these truths are accepted, they limit reality and how information is processed. Most Christian do not look into truths from the muslim faith and vice versa. Most religious people will not contemplate information that seems to clash with their religious beliefs. Now they are closed to any other realizations and growth and everything has to framed through their matrix of religion.
Mainstream media is used to further program people. It gives political information, influences social norms and molds the minds of children and adults to support the continuation of the status quo. Media determines what people wear, eat, hate, love and what they do. The people who have accepted the program help keep those who are rejecting it in line. They tell others what is possible and what they should be doing according to how they have been programmed. So you have to want the America Dream and follow these systems put in place or you are crazy. They have even developed mental illness as a way to label and control people. Once people accept these labels, they believe the problem is them. Often it is just the programming malfunctioning but those who want to control us cannot afford questioning of the program.
PROGRAM YOU OWN MIND
Chose the programming yourself and you control your matrix or your mind. What we allow in our minds, we manifest. Those who wish to control us attempt to control every aspect of what goes in our minds and therefore control the matrix we create for ourselves. If they create the building plans then they control what we build. However, if you let go of everything you think you know and begin to take all information in objectively and judge it for its validity then you can begin to program your own mind. Reading different books, listen to different teachers and philosophers and judge them on their own merit not based on the default programming you have been given. You will begin to let go of outdated programming and replace it programming that helps you create the reality you want. And this never stops. You will continue to grow and update your programming time and time again and learn what it means to be an infinite being. There is no end to growth and learning and there is no absolute right or wrong. It is all based on how we program our minds. Our mind is our matrix, it creates our limits and our realities. Is the programming your mind is running designed to limit you or free you?
This was an event I had last year with a group of midwives and the title of a chapter in my book Sista Sista: A Woman's Guide to Self. Available for purchase on the homepage.
March is recognized as Women in History Month and feminism as a "movement" has been a hot topic on social media for a while now. I am slow to call feminism a movement because I am not sure of the goals and shared values. One reason for this is because it is mostly a social media movement as most people who talk about it do very little in the physical world to actually move it forward. I know the wage gap and violence against women are major concerns for valid reasons. I also notice a lot of social issues being brought to the forefront. Women do not want to be judge differently for the same behaviors and actions as men. Inequalities we see between men and women in society need to be addressed but I preferred to focus on the root of problems and not symptoms and in my opinion feminism is only addressing symptoms. Also women need to focus on their role and how they can use the power they have to level the playing field rather than demanding a system created and ran by men to allow them to share in the power.
VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN
Violence against women is unacceptable so bringing attention to it is a great start but encouraging women to learn to defend and protect themselves is the easiest and most empowering way to address violence against women. The system is not going to change and waiting for public opinion to change is irresponsible. Women must arm themselves with the proper tools to discourage violence against them. Learning to avoid situations where they are more likely to be victimized and recognizing the signs of violent attitudes are also good tools. Feminism seems to instead have women forcing their way into risky situations and demanding not to be oppressed or attacked. In large numbers as a demonstration this can be powerful but as an individual or a small group is dangerous. No one ever deserves to be abused but placing yourself in harms way to make a point is irresponsible and foolish.
THE WAGE GAP
The wage gap is another symptom feminism addresses but at the end of the day women accept lower pay. Women have to know their worth and being willing to sacrifice to prove it. Why would you complain to a sexist system about sexism? Why would expect men to give up their power? Why not instead focus on empowering each other. Women hiring other women and using the services and products of women ran companies. Empowering women should be in the mission of every business a woman owns. To beg men for power and acceptance is to admit they are more powerful!
Fighting for social acceptance of behaviors is pointless is my opinion. We can instead teach women to be confident and secure in their actions and choices. Women cannot demand that people see their personal choices as good or not form opinions about them because of their choices. A woman is free to have a lot of sexual partners, wear revealing clothing or participate in behaviors viewed a normal for men but frowned on for women. However, she must also deal with the consequences of the behavior. No one has to protect her feelings and she must be strong to challenge the stereotypes. Social opinion changes when people are ready and cannot be forced and its a waste of energy to make this a priority.
HOW DO WOMEN CHANGE SOCIETY
Women change society by being women as nature designed us to be. Patriarchy has tricked women into devaluing their natural gifts. Feminism has many women trying to prove they can do anything a man can do instead of embracing being a woman. Many are chasing qualities and accomplishments of men, which means they see men as more valuable and powerful. Our womb is actually our power, we give life to the world and can nurture our children to be anything we want. Instead women have devalued the power of motherhood in order to prove they can be just as valuable outside the home. So women if and when they have children rush back to work sending their children into the sexist system oppressing them to be educated and nurtured. This is counterproductive to say the least. What sense does it make to let sexist ideology, people and systems mold your children's brain. Then their sons and daughters grow up to continue the very system that feminism is fighting. This is a horrible strategy.
Instead what if mothers came together to educate their children in homeschool collectives ensuring that girl and boys are encouraged to participate in all activities equally. Now their children do not buy into men being better equipped for science and math and women arts and services. This leads to social change as the boys learn girls can be valuable in every area of life and girls learn the same. If women focused on socializing their children in a way that ends sexism then it could be solved in one generation. Imagine that! The one thing patriarchy has framed as a weakness of women is actually our power. As long as your enemy can make you believe your power is your weakness, he will always have the upper hand. Its time for women to take back their power and embrace their divine gifts. But many women are running from this truth and feminism seems to reinforce the devaluing of our wombs. This is why I say women's power is not feminism and see feminism as an obstacle to the empowerment of women. Just another perspective. Peace and Love.
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