What is sexual liberation?
Sexual liberation is the freedom to sexually express yourself in any way (as long as it does not violate anyone).
Women have been denied this because of laws in the past and societal norms. Since women can own land and all that now laws are not really a probably. Imagine having to marry a man in order to inherit your father’s land. Now it is mostly societal norms and programming that limit sexual liberation. Women are often judged and valued by their sexuality. If a woman has many partners, dresses provocative or wishes to explore her sexuality then her value decreases. This thinking leads many women to denied their sexuality full expression for fear of being ostracized and even harmed because of it. I have heard men say their worse fear is their daughter being a hoe not her being unhappy or in an abusive relationship. Interesting!
The Rise of Hoe Culture
Hoe culture seems to be the on the rise and is being tied to sexual liberation. While it is true many women may want to where less clothing, have more sexual partners and be sex workers, it is also true selling sex in some form is a great economic move for many women. It is being push in mainstream media from the first lady of the US posing nude to the rise of women like, Cardi B, Blac Chyna and Amber Rose. These are extreme forms of sexual expression just like being a nun is an extreme form. Are women being programmed to think hoe culture is what sexual liberation looks like? Are women framing hoe culture as sexual liberation to ease their conscience about their choices?
A Different View
Sexual liberation looks different for everyone. Not every woman has the desire to sleep with a lot of men or wear revealing clothing or be a sex worker. For some sexual liberation is being able to be conservative and still be successful in life. For the woman who is expected to work for $10/hr and struggle but sleeps with men for them to help with financial matters, sexual liberation looks like not having to trade her body to provide for her family. It also looks like a young woman exploring her sexuality without her societal value is going down.
How to Sexually Liberate Yourself
1. Remove your own judgement.
Sexual liberation starts in the mind. First remove all your own judgements about sex. Your value as a person is not based in your sexuality. Most of us have been programmed to think otherwise and limit ourselves and our experiences to maintain an image we have created in our minds.
2. Value your sexual energy
Sexual energy is very power, it is the source of creation. Treat it as such! You have to know the power you hold to wield it correctly. Many spew sexual energy without any real goals so it makes it easier for others to exploit it.
3. Stop Seeking Outside ApprovalTo be liberated you must act from your own will and understanding. When it comes to freely expressing yourself, concerning yourself with the thoughts of others will only limit you. However, you do have to acknowledge there are consequences for your actions. Freedom always requires sacrifice so know what you are willing to sacrifice.
As long as sex work is one of the most lucrative businesses for women to partake in and basic needs are not met in society, sexual liberation is very difficult for women to obtain. If all basic needs were guaranteed to be met (as good governments do), would so many women be embracing hoe culture? Would so many women be limiting their sexual expression to maintain their relationship value? This is a loaded issue with many moving parts. The first step towards sexual liberation is freeing your mind of the limiting views of sexuality and correlations between the value of people according to their sexual expression. We are more than our sexual choices and society will not embrace this until the individuals in it does. Bliss and Love infinite souls.
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